I need help answering my kids questions about why they can't have what they want now, even though we are grateful for those things now. How do I answer them "Why can't we have that new toy, or those new clothes now?" without sounding like I don't believe that we already have them. The fact is that I just started with the Secret two months ago and just recently (within the last two weeks started practicing it) so the money isn't here yet. They are only 7 and 8 so I'm not sure how much I should be saying out loud and how much of the "acting like I have it already" that they should be exposed to because of the ensuing questions that cause me to say well we do have but we don't have. Does anyone understand what I'm saying? Please help!
I think I understand what you're saying... and I would (and do ;-)) have a conversation with 'my' kids that goes something like this:
Child: Why can't I have the new toy now?
Me: Hmmmm... Yeah...why not? What do you think?
Child: Cause you don't have the money?
Me: What does my money have to do with anything? You're the one who wants that toy. Let me ask you a question... how do you think it would feel to have that toy?
Child: Good.
Me: Well... are you feeling good?
Child: I will when I have the toy!
Me: Hmmmm.... the Universe gives us what matches our vibration... and our feelings tell us what we are vibrating. Do you think right now you are feeling a match to how you will feel when you have the toy?
Child: That's silly... I can't because I don't have the toy!!!
Me: WOW! Sounds like you're in a jam. Kind of stuck feeling yucky when you think about NOT having the toy.
Child: How can I feel the same happy having the toy or not having the toy?
Me: Oh...now you're getting clever. Good question. How can you?
Child: I can forget about the stupid toy and pretend I never saw it.
Me: That could work if you could do it. You sound kind of angry though. That might not help you be a match to getting the toy. What about remembering all the toys you have at home.
Child: What about them? I'm not talking about them.
Me: Well, how did you feel when you got them? Can you think of one toy you have at home that you wanted the same way you want this toy?
Child: Yeah... I really, really wanted those action figures I already have and I really like them. That's why I want this new one.
Me: Oh... because you don't feel good about the ones at home anymore?
Child: No... I do feel good about those... (child goes on to describe where and when each figure was received and all the things that are great about that particular figure....
and I said....
Me: Keep feeling the way you're feeling right now as you're talking and I can promise you that new action figure is on his way....
...and because it was my kid he said (in a bit of an exaggerated Eyeore voice....) "Oh yeah...I'll see it when I believe it!" and we finished our shopping. The next day his grandma walked in the door with that exact action figure.... and I promise... it didn't come from me! LOL
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